RE: Re: virus: Re:[genius] Sexism

Zloduska (
Fri, 26 Feb 1999 01:57:35 -0600

Richard wrote:

><<You must
>realize that for most sexual-assault survivors, they are screwed up for the
>rest of their life, and they do indeed suffer every single day.>>
>Very true, very true.
>In fact, it's true of most people, regardless of what they have survived,
>isn't it?

That's life, I suppose.

>We can be happy and successful by choosing the attitudes with which we look
>at the past, present, and future. The same attitudes are not "correct" for
>everyone nor in every situation. You are trying to change people's attitudes
>to fit an agenda you have. People are very resistant to having their
>attitudes changed, even if they are stupid, counterproductive, even
>self-destructive attitudes.

Am I guilty of the same thing (ok, and I am of the former) if I said I was actually trying to change their "perception"?

>Kristy, few people are "for" rape. Think about what you are trying to
>accomplish and how best to achieve it. Telling other people they are wrong
>may just entrench them even more strongly. It is very unlikely to change
>anyone's mind and leaves a trail of bitterness.

Some things I find I just cannot be "nicey" and polite about. If you're too nice about certain things, it's ineffectual. That's why I persist so. (Not saying "I'm right, you're wrong" here; just giving my reason, as far as I know.)