Re: virus: In That Special Way, a polemic

maggs (
Sun, 7 Feb 1999 12:15:32 -0600 (CST)

                        You're asking what You do to act as a person and
not an animate inanimate. How do you get "soul" back? Can you take what you know and blend it with who you are and not allow one to override the other?
                You realize that from time to time you fall into the trap.
A step...


"A Husband is a Convenient Part of the Furniture of the House" Mary Wollstonecraft

"I am more than what you define and delienate me to be" Elizabeth Wurtzel

On Wed, 3 Feb 1999, Tim Rhodes wrote:

> Something has bothered me alot lately. I notice it often in conversations
> with my friends and others, and also on mailing lists such as this one. And
> it worries me. Not in small part because I fear I may fall into the same
> habit at times.
> There is a certain tone that people often adopt when trying to be both
> gentle and persuasive, and usually behind a good cause, which nevertheless
> sets off all my "bullshit detectors" even when I know the speaker is both
> (A) sincere and (B) wholy and completely right. [1] The sad thing is that I
> am not alone in this. If it were just my bells and whistles being triggered
> and no one elses I could live with it. But I've sat idly by many a time as
> someone in the conversation has moved into this particular cadence and
> watched as all their listener's eyes glaze over and the immune response
> kicked in, deflecting everything usefull they had to say.
> Is it actually possible to be positive, kind-hearted, persuasive and
> thoughful without sounding like a new-age, tree-hugging, born-again,
> pansy-assed git? And if so, how does one go about it?
> -Prof. Tim
> [1] As an aside, I suspect this factor is what has kept me from being able
> to take NLP, or the users of it, very seriously in actual practice.